Apr. 12th, 2011

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You will not always agree with the things I say here, and that's okay. I believe it is a cop-out to say this is MY space and you can't disagree with me. It is, after all, the whole internet, isn't it? Besides, if I were surrounded by people who agreed with me all the time, I might turn into one of those bloggers who fancies herself an Authority, and I'm not an authority on anything except me.

One thing I don't allow, though, is for one friend to abuse another in here. Of course I don't expect you to agree on things, but I won't tolerate name-calling and general nastiness. For that reason, I will drop someone who does that here and I lose respect for friends who allow it in their own journals. I don't hate anybody on here, even those with whom I did get fished into great dramatic outbursts; I wish people well, but prefer to wish them well from afar once I'm done with a situation. There's no awkwardness here. I just figure you aren't all that interested in me and mine, so off I go.

See, here's the thing: I don't care what some other person halfway across the state or country thinks of me based on one comment, and neither should you. I figure anybody who automatically assumes the worst about me is probably an asshole, so I stop reading. I've been abused and berated and called names more than once, and none of them have been particularly impressive in their originality. Just as often people misuse choice words like "hypocrite," which is hilarious, and I usually want to say, "I do not think that means what you think it means" in an Inigo accent.

People who are the most entitled are the most easily offended. Let us all remember that there is no such thing as the right to not be offended, nor the right to demand that others behave exactly as you do. Sometimes, if you act like a jerk, you'll get called on it.

I try to give credit for character until I find out otherwise, at which time I'm generally disappointed and figure, oh, what the hell. I have enough friends, and I just click that little delete button. I don't get into drama, and I don't have the time or inclination for crap.

I had "friends" on here that I couldn't stand for the longest time, and every post got more and more irritating until the dam had to break. Even though I knew they (one she in particular) hated me for some unclear reason--sometimes for years--I just didn't rip off the band-aid. I knew we gossiped about each other, and I knew we were probably what you'd call "frenemies" if you were a tabloid, so I don't know why we let it go on so long. Maybe we were bored. We still have friends in common, and I lack any hostility at all. Once they were gone, all my hostility vanished like smoke.

People make mistakes, but I don't want to make again the one of sticking around where I know I'm not welcome.

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